By nature, I am flexible, collaborative, playful and creative. I love improvisation and bring in the elements of my training and experience that best fit who you are and what you seek from therapy at this time.
My training is psychodynamic and relational, and informed by Buddhist psychology and mindfulness/meditative practices. I also draw from attachment theory and training in the treatment of developmental trauma (Dr. Larry Heller's Neuro Affective Relational Model or NARM). My work is also influenced by non-violent communication (NVC) and self-compassion research by Kristin Neff, PhD and others.
Most importantly, my guiding principle is that sustainable growth and change depend on cultivating a tender and open-hearted relationship with yourself, just as you are, at this point in your life. That means recognizing your strengths and resourcefulness.
It also means accepting your experience as it is, including the aspects you’ve learned to neglect and reject. I see what Carl Jung meant when he said, "I would rather be whole than good." People are often surprised by the energy and power that they feel when they reconnect with these lost and disavowed parts of themselves.
When I’m not doing therapy, I like to spend free time in my garden and in nature, where I find it easier to quiet my mind. And when I step into the natural world, I feel more grounded in my emotional world. I'm often surprised--and my trust in life grows--when I see something that was struggling come back to life with the right amount of watering, a more suitable spot, or simply time.
It's not surprising that so many of our favorite metaphors come from nature: sowing seeds, early and late bloomers, fertile and fallow ground, rootedness, branching out, cultivating, seasons of change, loss and renewal. As Anais Nin described of her own growth,
“. . . the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”